The fact is damage has been done. Some of your friends will tell you you’re better off without him, and some would probably say he’s worth another try. But the truth is only you can decide if you do want to get your ex back in your life or if you are ready to move on.

If you choose to get your ex back, here are some tips on how you can make it an easier and faster process:

1.    Skip the drama and act as if everything’s cool. If you ever bump into him accidentally, just say hello and don’t suddenly cry in front of him, asking for another chance. If you play it cool, you don’t come out too desperate, which may actually turn him off.  Instead, give out signs that you’re handling the breakup pretty well.  That may start him wondering if he is really someone who’s easy to get over with.

2.    Find time to pamper yourself. Yes, instead of wallowing in self pity, do something positive like getting a new haircut or going for a massage. Get out and have fun with friends. If you prefer to do things on your own and would rather enjoy periods of solitude, do it outdoors rather than be cooped up inside your room all day.  Go to the museum or the library. Go to the park and take along your favorite book. Watch a play or go window shopping all afternoon. Do anything that will get you out of the house. If you do not try and get out, you may end up lonely and depressed and may always feel the temptation to call him or send him text messages even in the middle of the night.

3.    After some period of introspection and you are really sure that you’re ready to get your ex back into your life, you can call him briefly or send him a text message and ask to meet him for coffee.  You should then give the impression that you are ready to see him as a friend and that you are starting to enjoy your newfound independence.

That will really get him thinking how come you don’t seem to miss him as much as he missed you.  It’s the best piece of advice if you really want to get your ex back in your life – work on your self image, don’t appear desperate for his love again and act like everything’s cool.

You’ll find out that sooner or later, he can’t resist hooking up with you again – most guys can’t accept the fact that they are just that easy to forget!

The challenges that couples face in this kind of relationship differ, depending on what level the relationship is on. If the relationship is new, and has not been given enough time to develop, the challenge to keep it alive is greater than if there has been more time shared before one partner relocates.

If you’re already in a long distance relationship or contemplating on getting into one, here are a couple of things you can do to make the relationship vibrant in spite of the miles in between:

1.  Think positive. People looking from the outside will often see that your relationship is doomed, because of the distance between you and your partner. Do not listen to people who would readily put down your relationship, but instead, if you want to make it work, fill your days with positive thoughts and shun out the negative criticisms that you may hear.
2.  Forecast an end goal to the separation. You and your partner should agree on the time frame as to when this arrangement will last. Make the deadline realistic – one, that will also allow for both of you to reach your other goals which probably started the separation in the first place. The deadline should be mutually agreed, because if it’s just one partner setting the date, the other partner may feel pressured and may even find the relationship an impediment to personal growth.

3.  Communicate. With internet, reaching out to your partner, even at the remotest part of the earth is no longer impossible. Emails and phone calls are great ways to establish intimacy, and can bridge that distance. Also, take the time to write long loving letters to each other to spice up the romance.  Share even the most mundane events of the day to make your partner feel that closeness and that he or she is a part of your every day life.

4.  Meet up. This is an important step to keep the relationship alive and if you consider your relationship a priority, you would find ways to meet up, even though it may get expensive sometimes. It adds up to the excitement whenever you and your partner has a date to look forward to, like a shared weekend or even a once a month date.

5.  Build Trust. It’s normal to feel fear and anxiety that your partner may become unfaithful because of the mere fact that you are not together most of the time. However, studies show that it’s not the distance between the couple, but the overall quality of the relationship which will determine if infidelity will happen. Strengthen the relationship and you’ll find that it will be very difficult for you or your partner to stray away.

A long distance relationship probably takes more work than a regular “geographically close” one. But LDR is a fact of today’s world and something that can still work as long as both partners are committed to keep the relationship alive and exciting.

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