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4 Mistakes You Can Make to Drive Your Girlfriend Away

July 22nd, 2009 Brian Hendrick 1 comment

You’re reading this article for 2 reasons – either you’re finding ways to keep your present girlfriend, or you want your girlfriend to be the one to call it quits. If it’s the second reason you have in mind, you don’t have to read the rest of this article – just try your best to be obnoxious to your girl and her family and her friends, and for sure, she’ll find an easy way to dump you! But if your goal really is to make your relationship work and avoid the mistakes that will make her walk out on you, then read on:

Mistake No. 1 – Don’t ever try and make your girl jealous. Jealousy should never be used to measure how much she loves you. If you intentionally flirt with other girls just to see her furious, then don’t be surprised when she does get hysterical and starts throwing things at you. Think how you would feel if she retaliates and does the same thing. Making her jealous is not only an immature thing to do; it also creates distrust and can ruin the relationship.

Mistake No. 2 – Never use any form of abuse (verbal, mental or physical) on her. If you are in an abusive relationship, where you are the abuser, seek professional help. You will never find harmony in this kind of relationship, and sooner or later your girlfriend will realize that it’s not healthy for her to stay on.

Mistake No. 3 – Don’t keep bringing up your ex. A casual mention of your ex from time to time maybe alright, but if you keep reminiscing about your ex, you’ll just end up hurting your present girlfriend and don’t be surprised if she calls it quits. Obviously, you’re just on the rebound and still pining for your ex, if you keep bringing her up. Analyze your feelings, and if you do feel strongly for your present girlfriend, break the habit of thinking and talking about your ex.

Mistake No. 4 – Do not be too possessive or obsessive about your relationship. Like most men, women also do not want to be in a controlling relationship. If there is not much room to breathe and to grow in your relationship, chances are your girlfriend will not be happy and will get tired of you easily.

Women are not that complicated, if you understand that it’s unconditional love that they usually look for. Most women would stay in a relationship that nurtures their spirit and allows them to develop as an individual.

Love your woman, don’t try and live her life for her. But instead, find ways to love, understand and support her.

If you’ve done any of the mistakes above, find ways to win her back at Get Your Ex Back.

How Long Does it Take to Get Over a Breakup?

July 21st, 2009 Brian Hendrick No comments

When a breakup happens, you will always have to go through a healing period to help you get over the pain, no matter how long or how short a relationship has been. You have to focus on what you’re going to do next after the relationship has ended.

Some people are happy to have their relationships end because they can be free now to pursue other people. Other people are sad because they were making long term plans with the person they were with and got a monkey wrench thrown into it. There are several factors involved that’ll help you determine how long it might take to move on after a breakup though.

The most important thing you have to consider is the length of the relationship. If you had a relationship that lasted for years then it may take you years possibly to get over it. Some people will move on sooner, but if the feelings were genuine then you can’t get rid of those feelings overnight. If the relationship ended really badly you may not be able to move on until you get some kind of closure from the other person. If your relationship was just one long drawn out date then you’ll be able to move on much faster because your emotions were not as invested.

Sometimes getting over a breakup requires you to slowly accept the reality that it’s over. This reality may come to you slowly at first, but once you accept it you can begin the moving on process. Take it slow; do not be in a hurry to get over your ex. You did enjoy a lot of good times with the person and those good memories are something most people will cherish. Of course some may argue that the best way to get over these memories is to create new memories with other people. But you don’t want to use someone else as a crutch to getting over someone else. This would be unfair to the new person you get involved with.

The best way to know how long it is going to take you to get over a breakup is for you to go back on the dating scene and see if anyone else captures your eye. If you can see yourself being with someone else, then this is a good sign that you’re ready to move on.

The final step will be you officially getting involved with another man and putting the past behind you. But make sure you’ve completely moved on from your other relationship otherwise you won’t be giving the other person your full attention and this can sabotage your future relationship.

How long can it take you to get over your relationship? It can take a few days, it can take a few months or it can take a few years. If your feelings were strong for the other person then a long grace period is going to be needed in order for you to move past those feelings. It’s possible though that you may never move past the feelings you used to , but what you can do is give the next person that comes into your life all of you and not just the part that’s left after a bad break up.

Recovering from a bad breakup is never easy.  Another option is to try and work on getting your ex back if  you believe your relationship stands another chance.