Make Your Ex Come Back!

So you’ve read all the blogs on getting your ex back, on what to do and what not to do and you’ve done a lot of self analysis and came up with the conclusion that you do want your ex back. However, before you make your first step towards winning back your lost love, it will be best to find out first if your ex would also welcome the idea of giving the relationship another try.

Here are a few tell tale signs that your ex is ready to take you back:

1. She has not been seeing anyone else since you separated. Most women take longer than men to get into another relationship after the break up, especially if the relationship lasted for years. It is more common for women to have strong emotional binds to a relationship, which makes it more difficult for them to move on and start a new love affair right away. Your ex maybe dating other guys, but she maybe giving you signals that there is no one she’s going out seriously with. She is maybe telling you subtly that she’s waiting for you to ask her out again.

2. She returns your emails, text messages and phone calls, no matter how trivial they maybe. It may be a short joke you sent to her by email, to which she replies with a simple, “that made my day!” Try and read between the short emails or text messages she sends you. She maybe wanting to reestablish a connection, but doesn’t want to come out too forward or too imposing on you.

3. She maintains communication with your family and friends and frequently asks them about you. That maybe her way of reminding herself of the good times she used to share with you. Your common friends are the best sources you could ask if she has been curious about you since the breakup. She could be looking for signs that you’re as miserable as she has been since the separation.

4. She has kept the love tokens you gave her. Small items like pictures, pieces of jewelry, tickets for movies you both enjoyed, etc. all tell their stories of happy times shared between the two of you. If she has chosen to keep them, then that simply shows you still mean something to her, and although your relationship has taken a sour note, it may still have some hopes of revival.

5. She makes the first move to reestablish communication. She may suddenly call you and ask you to join her for coffee, as “she just happens to be in the neighborhood”. For all you know, she must have planned this meeting, so by all means, go and find out what she has to say!

Women sometimes have a hard time coming straightforward that they would want to give the relationship another try, especially if the separation has been painful and bitter. They sometimes think that it echoes desperation if they try and make the first move for reconciliation.

If you feel in your heart that you would want to make it easy for you and your ex to get back together again, read the signs she’s sending out. These signs maybe her way of saying that she wants you back, too.

Remember though that reading the signs can sometimes be deceptive, as we sometimes see only what we want to see. What is more important is to keep the communication open so that you get validation and not just pure assumptions of how your ex feels.