Sometimes these emotions of pain, anger, misery and confusion just paralyze you and you are unable to go through your day without crying. You may find it hard to even leave your bedroom or your house a few days (sometimes weeks) after the breakup. You would stare on the phone for hours, waiting for it to ring, hoping that it’s his voice at the other end of the line. Well, he does call one day, but it’s only to let you know he’s picking up the rest of his things!

And you feel your heart being torn apart into small pieces and then trampled on. But face it, it’s not just your heart that is hurting here. So are your self esteem and pride. You can’t believe that he would dump you for someone less pretty, less smart than you. You can’t even imagine what he sees with the girl he’s dating right now. And at the back of your mind, you want to believe that he’s just out dating to make you feel jealous. Oh yeah, right!

You have two choices – you can wallow in self pity and spend the rest of your life aching for “the man that got away”. Or you can step out of your room, look around you and see how wonderful it is that you are given this chance to reflect on what went wrong. Step out of your blues. Get out there and meet your best friend for coffee and if you really strongly desire it – plan your strategy to make your ex come back.

Focus on gaining back your confidence and do a little soul searching.  Ask yourself what your next step will be – will you try and mend your broken heart by moving on, or would you try to make your ex come back to you?

You alone can make that decision.  But whether or not you decide to make your ex come back, work on your self-esteem and gain that confidence again.  Find ways to restore the woman he first fell in love with but somehow got buried in all of life’s daily demands.  Get out and make new friends, watch movies or concerts with friends, read more books, love yourself more.

You maybe surprised that the next time he sees you, you don’t even have to try too hard to catch his attention.  He’ll wonder if you have a new love in your life who is making the best of you come out. He’ll even be more surprised to know that you just did all these changes because you learned to love yourself more.

Without even really trying, you can make your ex come back to you with your newfound confidence.  Try it and be on for a surprise!

She feels self pity, disgust, and hatred for the man she vowed to share her life with. How could this happen? She was caught so totally unprepared. She had given him the best years of her life, twenty years, and all had gone down the drain in a split second – at that moment when he welcomed another woman in his life.

Cindy is just one of the sad statistics that’s part of today’s reality. A relationship that is at risk is one of the most difficult challenges a woman can face. Unfortunately, relationships are threatened too often.

At mid life, Cindy may be feeling that it’s too late for her to start life all over. She has the option of accepting defeat and filing for divorce. On the other hand, she can also try her best to win her husband back. It will be a long struggle and she has to arm herself with enough strength to face whatever the outcome of her efforts maybe.

If you are in the same predicament as Cindy is, here are 4 simple tactics that may lead you to get your husband back.

1. Stop the blame. Face the fact that when a marriage goes down the drain, it is not just one partner’s fault. It’s possible that you had let yourself go and lost the luster he fell in love with in the first place. More often than not, husbands have affairs with women who are younger versions of their wives. Realize that you may also be at fault – either you had neglected him or yourself.

2. Appreciate the love he had given you and your family. Oftentimes a man finds comfort in another woman’s arms because he does not get enough appreciation at home. Another woman can easily fill that emotional void he may be feeling, which could have been avoided if you had been appreciative of his love in the first place.

3. Let him know you’re interested to give it another try. Remind him in subtle ways of the happier times you had. It may make him remember the love you once shared with each other.

4. Work on regaining your self esteem. You can never go wrong if you concentrate on improving yourself, rather than wallowing in self pity. If he decides your marriage is dead, then a renewed self esteem is your best armor to go through life on your own, if necessary.

You should consider your marriage as one of your biggest investments in life; after all you had invested your emotions and time on it. You should then protect it with your life and make sure that it will grow through the years and enrich both your life and your spouse’s.

If you feel you have a good chance of winning your husband back, then work on it. Make yourself attractive and desirable again, appreciate him again for what he is and stop blaming him or yourself. Let him know that you want him back and once he feels loved and needed again, you’ll stand a better chance of winning him back.